Thursday, July 25, 2013
Monday, June 10, 2013
We had some yummy Italian food for dinner and met a sweet older couple that sat next to us as we all watched a group of prom goers leaving the restaurant, the gentleman next to us said. "When I went to prom, I rented my tuxedo for $12!" We thought that was pretty awesome! After dinner, we decided to walk off some of our calories, only to find more with some delicious artisanal gelato! Wensa had been before and suggested Dolcezza, I am not prejudice against ANY type of dessert, I'm just saying.
Let me tell you how great this gelato was! The flavors ranged from classic to unique and all were delicious! I'd say our sister date was a delicious success! Here's my review on Dolcezza! Enjoy, I know we did!
Thursday, May 16, 2013
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Sunday, May 12, 2013
What a day! I was telling my husband earlier that it's so weird to be now celebrating Mother's Day not only as a daughter to my mother, but as a mother to my daughter! I wouldn't have it any other way. It's such a special feeling to be recognized on a beautiful Sunday every year from the ones you care for the most. Mother's are truly superhero's and at the end of some days (or the beginnings of some early mornings), I even surprise myself!
Growing up, my mom did EVERYTHING! From cooking breakfast for us early before school, to dropping us off to school when the weather was bad, or waiting with us at the bus stop, parent teacher conferences, delicious homemade Haitian meals for dinner every single day, staying up with us when we were sick, getting us medicine/last minute doctor appointments, dropping off our projects to school so we didn't have to carry them around, shopping with all three of us for back to school clothes, making every choir concert, track meet, baseball/softball game, signing consent forms or detentions and standing up for us when we needed it. Even as an adult, once I had Ava, she came over every single day to help me, from laundry to dishes to making sure I got a nap in during the day.
Now that I have a child of my own, I can see the daily sacrifices seen and unseen that are made. And a lot of the time, they go unnoticed because it just seems "normal". In all honesty there are days when I feel like I am at my wits end and just want to lock myself in my room, but I can't because no matter how trying, tiring, frustrating, and repetitive motherhood gets, this is what I prayed for and as soon as we put Ava down to bed, I miss her and I'm ready to do it all over again the next day!
For every unexpected late night, boo boo kiss, fever reducing snuggles, meal cooked, tear soaked shoulder, snotty nose wipe, tummy ache, hospital visit, made up bed time story, make believe role play, pooped stained surprises, emergency outfit change, nursery rhyme sing along, Umizoomi marathon, or crumbled cookie found on the bottom of your purse, you are amazing!
Cheers to mother's all over the world from birth mothers to step mothers to guardians, to role models, you are loved and appreciated! Happy Mother's Day! And a very special first-time Happy Mother's Day to my big sister Wensa! God is love.
Sunday, May 5, 2013
Most peoples favorite time of year is Thanksgiving or Christmas, some people even love Halloween; but yesterday was May 4th, and that is one of my favorite days. Being from Kentucky, a lot of people might automatically assume Derby, although I love the hats and festvities surrounding said Derby, that's not why I love May 4th so much. It's my daughters birthday on May 4th! This day serves as a reminder to me how AMAZING the God we serve is. It's almost as if He serves us.
About eight years ago, I became the survivor of a brutal rape that ended up making doctors and tests believe that me bearing children was a no go. Upon this news I was so hurt, angry, but mostly confused as to why I was so sure that I was going to be a mother one day. My whole life the "someday, when I have kids" comments selfishly passed through my lips countless times. Now, I was stuck with the harsh "reality" that someday may never come.
I even went as far as giving my husband (fiance at the time) an out because I didn't want someone resenting me for the fact that I cannot give them something (or someone) that they too had always dreamed of. He flat out told me "no". So that was that, we would get married and not have kids.
As time went by, we would hypothetically talk about our kids, what we would do in certain situations, what would we say in particular times of their formidable years. But way deep down inside, I really did still think I was going to have a child one day. I still held on to the fact that science was telling us otherwise, and to not get my hopes up, I went with it, I was being "realistic".
People would ask us when we were going to start our family, and I'd always act like I wasn't ready for kids yet in fear of the truth. Then after confiding in my friend Lauren, (we were not BFF's at this point) she pretty much told me she not only didn't believe me, but she felt strongly in her spirit that I would be pregnant and soon. As "out on a limb" as I thought her words were, it was one of those situations where I needed someone to stand in the gap and intercede for me. She felt strongly about her faith and what God could do, so I felt strongly not only in God, but also in her.
Not two months later did I take a pregnancy test because the night before, I had a vivid dream that I took a positive test. Sure enough, I took a test on a Saturday morning and you guessed it, positive! I was beyond myself, at first I didn't even believe it! There I was all alone in my bathroom hunched in a corner with this positive pregnancy test and the directions, just for reassurance.
Telling Nate was fun and (after a few more "just to make sure" tests) he was elated! We both walked around the rest of that day and thereafter on a euphoric cloud! Doctor appointments not only confirmed the pregnancy, but allowed us our first ultrasound to witness such a miracle. We were able to use those ultrasound pictures to surprise family and friends with the news!
After nine and some change months, aversion to any type of meat, pitted edema, and sleeping with an added third party; a bed buddy, Ava was born at 5:07am on May 4, 2010. She has challenged me since day one and is the most intuitive child you'll ever meet. She speaks her mind and speaks to EVERYONE she sees. She has unlimited energy, a big heart and an even bigger brain. I am aware on a daily basis that not only her, but every child is a well planned, carefully thought out gift from God and are here as a reminder to us that life is so much bigger than what we make of it, and if for nothing or no-one else, we all must try our very best for them.
We celebrated Ava's 3rd birthday this past weekend, and look forward to many more! For in these past three years, I've learned more about life through the clear lense of a child than I have in anything else, and let me say, what a view! Cheers to Ava and Praise be to God. Keep that dream alive, whatever it is! God is love.
Friday, May 3, 2013
Sunday, April 28, 2013
I have the honor and the privilege to be a contributor on an online magazine that empowers, and connects all of the fabulous women in D.C. and surrounding areas: The DC Ladies! I will be contributing regularly about (you guessed it) FOOD, as well as sharing recipes and tips on planning for any size crowd at any event or holiday! I am more than excited to be able to be an asset to this already amazing sisterhood! Thank you all for supporting me and thank you in advance for the continued support! Until the next time; dream tonight DO tomorrow! God is love.
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Friday, April 26, 2013
I know you're probably used to me being all deep and in my feelings, but sometimes a girl has got to eat! I'm always being asked for recipes I make for my family, so I figured I'd share with everyone. I hope you enjoy, and if you make this, let me know, I'd love to hear about it! Bon appetite! God is love.
Thursday, April 18, 2013
With trying to get back into the swing of life in general, I can honestly say I have never been busier in my entire life and I don't plan on slowing down anytime soon! Uprooting and moving your entire family is such a huge shift in anyone's life and I am glad that we are all better for it. I am definitely not a stranger to moving, growing up, we moved from New Jersey to Ohio, from Ohio to Kentucky and many local moves in between. I guess it's just different when you're not the child anymore but instead you have a child to consider! Big love to my mom for moving so many times with the three of us!
Now that I'm here, I am able to have spurts of reflection and I cannot help but think about what was going on this time last year and to say so much has changed would be an understatement! I was able to solidify some really important relationships, but also learn that not everyone is meant to come along for the ride and that doesn't have to entail hard feelings. The transition from childhood to adulthood is so scathing; for a while the only thing you are responsible for is making it to class on time, or finishing a three to five page essay on a book, then all of the sudden you're thrown into the real world and have to use your "know how" or lack there of to make crucial decisions that will affect your whole life. In the midst of all of that transitioning, I am convinced that there is so much emotional growth that is stunted that many people never learn to step out of their egocentricity. I used to have zero tolerance for that, but now I am trying to be more understanding and patient with those individuals, and there are times when that patience I speak of I have to exhibit to myself.
It is so refreshing to be able to step outside of myself not only for a short period of time, but long enough to progress in so many areas of my life that it in turn automatically changes me for the better.
Self improvement is a very important part of ones individual growth, but I think sometimes we focus so hard on it that it automatically shuts people down and shuts people out. I do agree that reevaluating relationships, friendships, associates or what have you periodically is very important, but there is no need to continually walk around trying to convince people of something that they are not going to care about as much as you! There is a much bigger picture out there, and the sooner we are able to become more selfless, the better. I'm learning everyday to concentrate on the gifts and tasks that God has paved for me to complete and I will grow and better from it beyond my control. Because when I'm in control progress is gradual, but when God is in control, it is undeniably exponential. Until next time (soon). God is love.